Show up for YOU

Yes, Yes, y’all and it don’t stop… Happy Wednesday family! How are y’all? Listen I’m fantastic! So this past Sunday was love day A.K.A Valentine’s Day! I used to HATE Valentine’s Day. It was always a constant reminder of feeling unloved and unwanted. I have had some TERRIBLE Valentine’s Days and I just decided at some point it wasn’t for me and I wasn’t even going to acknowledge the day because why set myself up like that. But then I became bitter. The holiday would come around and I just didn’t want to be bothered! Well last year I decided I would change the narrative and celebrate the people in my life that I love and of course I wanted to throw a Galentine’s day party.

You know what happened? My Grandmother died. Yep, she died January 30^th of 2020 and it just took all the air out of my balloon. I had to go home to Indiana, and I spent almost 3 weeks there and by the time I came back near Valentine’s day I wasn’t in the mood for no party. The blessing in it all is that I still had a great Valentine’s Day with no pressure. My friends knew what I was going through and still chose to come hang with me and we kept it simple with Dinner and a movie.

It wasn’t what I planned but it was DEFINITELY what I needed. God knows…it’s amazing to me how he can put the right people around you to hold you up during the right time. Now this year I planned to do nothing again because a lot of my crew members are now in relationships, so I was like cool, I’m going to order take out curl up on my couch and watch all my favorite 90s love stories because that is what brings me joy.

However, my homie Nika, was not here for it she was like we gone have another Galentine’s day gathering?! Then I decided what the hey, might as well turn it into a whole thing and that’s what we did. We had a whole photoshoot and just hyped each other up, and I LOOKED GOOD and I FELT GOOD with NO WHERE TO GO!!

What I’m learning on this journey that I’m on is that I have to learn to appreciate me enough to look good for me. Especially in the quarantine. It can’t be about me posting pictures for the Gram or going to events where I will be seen. Did you put your outfit on for you or for the compliments you thought you were going to receive when you put the outfit on? Galatians 1:10 is always my go to scripture that gathers me “Am I seeking the approval of man or God?” That might sound a little deep to you when it comes to an outfit but it’s how I think about all my actions. What am I really doing this for??

 I have to love me enough to take care of me, to want to treat me well! Self-care is important! It’s necessary! How are you going to teach someone how to treat you or love you if you don’t know yourself? It’s the bigger picture here!  SHOW UP FOR YOU! We get really good at showing up for other people, but we always fall short when it comes to ourselves. Why can’t you keep your word to you? Why don’t you deem yourself valuable enough to do what you said you needed to do for you?!

I AM PREACHING TO MYSELF TONIGHT! LOL

Okay I’m done! I love y’all! Show up for yourself this week! Even if its just one thing! Decide that you are WORTH IT! You OWE IT TO YOURSELF!

Until Next Time

Ashley Lachea’